15th January, 2009
This Is A Bunch Of Stuff
On Sunday, after I got back to Berkeley, NN sent me a few messages. She mentioned that she was angry at me for a few reasons. One, I had blown her off to hang out with LP on Tuesday. I admit that I did not handle that in the best way; NN had asked me out, but I was unsure for a few reasons, but I thought that she and I would have had the chance to spend time together later during the week. I ended up with LP because I thought that maybe we wouldn’t be able to meet up again (not knowing what would’ve happened over the week). Basically, I chose LP over NN and I understand why she was angry with me.
But then the next few things puzzled me a little. I had mentioned that her friends had stayed at an off-strip, cheaper hotel and I guess that LP’s friend, VD, may have translated that to NN in a bad manner. I, in no way, never meant to say that they were worse than I was (hell, I had a free room – and was very grateful). I guess I came off as shit-talking and talking down to her friends, so she didn’t like that.
We were also supposed to spend time on Thursday, as I had mentioned, but when I sent her a text to her boyfriend’s phone (she lost her SIM card and hadn’t gotten a new one), she didn’t reply, so I didn’t know if she had his phone or if she was there, so unfortunately, we didn’t get to spend time together.
Anyway, she seemed to be quite upset with me and I didn’t know what to do to make it better. I had already gone back up to Berkeley and couldn’t go see her. I had apologized to her for blowing her off and for coming off wrong (and also tried to defend myself), but I assume that she’s still angry at me. I don’t know what to do, but I also have a “I apologized, nothing more I can do” attitude.
However, she did mention something that ticked me off a little. She said that I shouldn’t have been hanging out with JLI so soon because he was LP’s friend first. Apparently, the rule is that “You don’t hang out with the person the day after you meet them because he was her friend first.” Okay, I can understand particular circumstances in which some like to stake some “claim” into friends (such as people who have a really close friend, like a BFF), but for casual friends, is there really a “claim” to it all? LP didn’t seem to be interested in JLI romantically and I wasn’t (and I don’t think he was) trying to hook up with or date him, so I don’t see anything wrong with the time span.
This isn’t the first time that someone’s thrown the “s/he’s my friend” in my face. A few years ago, someone else had done the same thing to me. I was trying to do her a favor and when the other person wouldn’t allow me to follow through with said favor, I probably ended up flirting a bit to coerce him into doing what she wanted him to do. Did I have any intention with continuing our talk? No. I just wanted to get what my friend had wanted and did it in the ways that I knew how to (in harmless ways). But nope, she blew up at me later on and used what I had done as one of her arguing points.
To me, I think it’s all a bunch of bullshit. If the person isn’t emotionally involved nor completely dependent on the other person, then why should that person prevent friendship or place “rules”? I swear, I hate all these social etiquette rules. What the hell are they for? I figure that if two people know what they are doing and where they stand with one another, then what the hell does it matter what other people say or think? Especially with all the shoulds and should nots?
Anyway, I went climbing again today. I finished two 5.9 routes. I had tried another one, but couldn’t get too far. It’s okay; next time if it’s still there, I’ll try that route again. I went with MH and my Viet 1A classmate, SL. Then we met up with another classmate, (coincidentally another) SL. We ate at this Mediterranean restaurant, Wally’s Cafe, that’s hidden from the public in Emeryville, but the food was delicious. The lentil soup was really good and so was my chicken shawarma sandwich. The best part was topped off with the baklava… Oh my god. It was so delicious, I had to buy two pieces of it just to bring home. I already ate one and am (trying) to save the other piece for tomorrow. I definitely want to come back to that restaurant. The owner was nice and had given us extra pieces of baklava. I made sure to leave a good tip.
Yesterday, I hung out with a fellow VSA member, HN. We watched Get Smart – it was so-so. Then we watched a few episodes of Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers. Man, I loved that show so much when I was a kid. I still think that some parts are corny now, but still good.
Tomorrow, I’m supposed to meet up with JYL because I haven’t seen her since some time last month. I need to give her the overdue Christmas present. Speaking of overdue presents, I was finally able to give NZ his present too. I had bought him the “I Can Has Cheezburger” book and also a Cute Overload page-a-day calendar. The last part is sending him a Stuff On My Cat postcard each week so he gets a new surprise in his mailbox. Yes, we have a large love for kitties. We met up for lunch on Sunday, before I left, at a sushi place near my house, Sushi O Sushi. The food was okay – didn’t really fill me up as much as sushi normally does, but I was really there for his company since I hadn’t seen him in so long.
After I’m done with JYL tomorrow, I’m headed off to a VSA retreat to some place in Danville. No internet, no phone, etc. I’m a little worried about it because I feel as if there’s already some tension going into this retreat and I hope that won’t taint the retreat too much. Just go with an open mind, right? I hope I can do it. After I get back, I get about a day or so of rest and then start school on Tuesday.
Gotta buck up!
Tags: climbing, Get Smart, HN, JLI, lolcats, LP, MH, NN, NZ, Power Rangers, retreat, SL, Sushi O Sushi, VSA, Wally's Cafe
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10th January, 2009
This Is Almost The End
Of break, that is.
Quite eventful and I apologize for not having updated this sooner so I didn’t have to pile this all up like so.
The rest of last week was a little uneventful. On Saturday, I met with my fellow VSA people in order to brainstorm for the Tet Parade coming up soon. We found a story that was good and are going to base it loosely off of that. We had dinner at Cheesecake Factory and then saw The Curious Case of Benjamin Button. As long as the movie was, I enjoyed it. Plus, who doesn’t love seeing Brad Pitt look like that? I could tell that he had a lot of makeup on though when he was supposed to look younger.
Then Sunday came around and that’s when the drama stated. My dad found out that I failed my AAS class and was definitely not happy. I stayed clear for a while. Sunday, I felt awful, so I called up MP and she took me to Johnny V’s. We talked a bit and she helped me realize that I had pretty much made my bed and now I needed to lie in it. We then decided to go to Dave and Busters and ran into NN working there. She invited us to her coworkers’ poker game (I had met them a few times before). It was a good night. MP left with some money.
Tuesday, I met up with an old friend, LP. She knew about my troubles too and was also helpful with her advice. Since she had to pick me up, I looked for a bar nearby and ended up at the Peacock Lounge. It was a good night there considering it was Tuesday. It was Karaoke night so there were quite a few people going up. Then we headed to Dave and Busters (again, I know) where her other friends were supposed to be. I met a few of them, more noticeably, a JLI. Since his friends were working people, they couldn’t stay out too long, so JLI, LP, and I continued to stay out to find something to do. We stopped by Edgie’s, a pool hall, where they had those TV games and played Photo Hunt for a little bit. Then we got hungry and ended up at Denny’s for late night food.
Wednesday, I went out with another old friend from grade school, ATH. His friend was supposed to play at Brit Arms, but ended up not going, but we went anyway since we liked the bar. We caught up, talked a lot. In the midst of our talking, he got a craving for pho (Vietnamese Noodle Soup), so we headed out to a restaurant that was open late. Then we ended up at a bar right next to my parents’, VIP Oriental. We had a beer and continued to chat. I really liked that bar too and had a good time just talking with him.
Thursday, MP and I met up with LP and her friend, VD. At first, it was just going to be MP and I, but JLI invited us over to his place for a Wii night, so we went. There were quite a few people and I had a fun time just chatting with people. After a few hours, we got hungry and ended up at VIP for some kimchee fried rice and other food.
Last night, I again spent the night with MP, LP, and VD (and others). We had a few drinks at LP’s place (a few Scooby Snacks and a blowjob) before heading downtown. We hit up The Loft first but saw it was a little empty, so we headed over to Vivid, a dance club, and danced a little. We got a little bored with the music selection, so we headed back to The Loft. The dance floor was smaller, but the music definitely better. I had a good time dancing with my friends and one of MP’s friends, H. He was a good dancer and he wasn’t trying to hump me like a lot of guys do in clubs. We were genuinely just having a good time dancing with one another. JLI ended up coming out after all, but came a little late. It was all good though.
As for today… I am inside. For now. I think I will be heading to a library later with JLI to read (he’s studying since school already started for him). I want to finish The Joy Luck Club anyway.
Peace out y’all.
Tags: ATH, Britannia Arms, Cheesecake Factory, Curious Case of Benjamin Button, Dave and Busters, Edgie's, JLI, Johnny V's, LP, MP, NN, Peacock Lounge, Tet, The Loft, The Way That You Love Me, VIP Oriental, Vivid, VSA
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